Understanding between any two groups is entirely dependent upon the individual relationships that are established between their members. The relationship between black and white America is complex and doesn’t lend itself well to the oversimplification espoused by the media and politicians.
Despite the fact that most of the battles of the Civil Rights struggle occurred in the South and involved disturbing images of blacks being beaten by police and attacked by dogs and fire hoses, racial segregation was even more entrenched up North. Blacks living in Northern cities were forced into ghettos and denied opportunities for employment in professions other than factory work and menial labor. The South Side of Chicago was known as Bronzeville due to the concentration of blacks, and the system worked to keep blacks from escaping these ghettos.
I was born and raised in the Deep South where I attended school with blacks, worked in the field with blacks, and never thought much about racial segregation because we were all part of the same small town, even though we lived in different communities. We acknowledged each other when we met in public, asked about each others’ families, and genuinely cared that everyone was doing well. My siblings and I were taught to be respectful of our black elders just as we would our white elders. I never had any fear of driving through the black community, nor do I ever remember any violence or threats between blacks and whites in our town growing up. The racial divide was there nonetheless, but it was somewhat subtle.
Sure, there were those who allowed racial hatred to fester and cloud their outlook on life, but that is true of any large group of people and isn’t indicative of everyone belonging to that group. Despite what one may think or may have read, it is extremely difficult to do harm to someone you grew up with, went to school with, and worked with. Some people can, but most can’t. Contrary to the stereotype portrayed by the media and advanced by racial pimps feeding off the black community by agitating at every perceived slight, most white Southerners have never belonged to the Ku Klux Klan and find their antics to be comical, unsophisticated, and unworthy of their attention.
At the same time, we resent being forced to integrate just for the sake of integration. The tradition of freedom in America should mean that Americans are free to live where they want, go to church where they want, and associate with whomever they want. The desegregation trend always seems to be to integrate white establishments while preserving the purity of black organizations. The Congressional Black Caucus won’t even admit black Republicans because they don’t feel these Congressmen are “black enough.”
It’s easy to feel animosity towards a group of nameless, faceless people to which you have no attachment, but quite another to destroy individual relationships built over a lifetime. Relationships are complex whether they exist between individuals or groups. On an individual level, we form unique relationships with others based on unique needs or shared experiences, and one relationship doesn’t necessarily involve the others. One can choose to focus on the negative aspects to the detriment of the relationship, or opt to strengthen the relationship through continued engagement.
America elected a black president, but black animosity towards whites has increased significantly since the election. It’s not enough to achieve equality; blacks feel they must dominate the relationship to make up for historical abuses the present generation never experienced and care little about except as a means to obtain financial and social redress. Mistakes were made, but there comes a time when past grievances must be set aside and a new future forged in the interest of further developing the relationship. We all live in the same country and must find a way to live together.
It is incumbent upon the black community to come to the realization that their present status is the direct result of their association with the Democrat Party which has worked tirelessly to extend their control over the black community to secure their votes. Democrats fought to shut blacks out of society and politics with Jim Crow laws in the South in an attempt to preserve that which the Civil War had undone. Southern Democrats became the Dixiecrats to fight against Civil Rights which were finally passed with Republican support. Realizing their control of blacks was slipping away, Democrats then managed to convince the black community that they were the champions of blacks and the Republicans were working to keep blacks under control. Prominent blacks who have studied history have discovered these truths and become Republicans to the consternation of the black leaders anointed by the Democrats to speak for the black community and perpetuate their status as victims.
As is often the case, Barack Obama made a bad situation worse by magnifying the perceived grievances of the black community behind a slicker façade then those animated by other black leaders who are nothing more than poverty pimps and grievance agitators. Much hope was poured into Obama to heal this divide only to be dashed against the rocks of reality when it turned out that he was really the biggest poverty pimp of all. The black community may not know or even suspect the fact that white America will not take another chance on a black president for a long time due to being burned so badly by Barack Obama and his empty rhetoric about bridging the racial divide that turned out to be so much hot air and disappointed so many. Without white America, there is no chance that a black will be elected president as blacks comprise a minority in America. Obama’s presidency will likely turn out to be the high water mark of black political achievement in America that failed to be sustainable due to its pettiness and mean spiritedness.
There are no shortcuts to building relationships. They require patience, time, and steady maintenance. Electing a black president was never going to be a shortcut to healing race relations in America. Electing Barack Obama as president made this even worse due to his narcissistic prickliness and proclivity to retreat to the standard black grievances so ingrained into his personality. He was electable, but he made a mess upon taking office due to his inability to govern. Blacks would have been much better served by waiting for someone truly committed to healing America’s racial divide and insisting upon properly vetting such a candidate beforehand. The media has done the black community a great disservice by abdicating its role in properly vetting Obama to expose his now obvious weaknesses as a candidate and sparing them the humiliation of having to defend such a poor candidate. Future black presidential candidates will be compared to Barack Obama just as Democrats are compared to Jimmy Carter.